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Category: Define self

The Maturity Point

April 11, 2025Define self, emotional system
the maturity point involves making a choice
  The Maturity Point: That Moment You Choose to Step Up We all hit it—that moment. You’re facing something uncomfortable—maybe it's a task you’ve been putting off, a conversation you’ve been dreading, or the decision to stop scrolling and

Making Changes in Relationships

March 16, 2025Define self
Changing relationship patterns can be hard
When is comes to making changes in relationships, why does it take time to make a significant change and what can one do about this? News flash. I'm not perfect. My immaturities and anxiety lead to me being more reactive in relationships than I want.

How Relationships Impact Health

October 27, 2024Anxiety, Define self, health
Stressed Woman

New research shows how our thinking can impact our gut health and trigger an immune system reaction. Chronic anxiety in relationships can activate this pathway. Define self could be more important to overall health that most people realize.

Don’t Fear Forgiveness

June 23, 2024Define self, forgiveness, triangles
Hands in Hands emotional Contact
Why is forgiveness important? Because it's good for us, whether it's forgiving someone else or yourself. But adopting a systems perspective around a wrongdoing is a big shift for anyone. The more intense the situation, the harder it can be. (Before y

Expectations and Emotional Demands

April 16, 2023Define self
I am your dream
Emotional demands and expectations go together For most organisms, including humans, the developmental trajectory involves an individual becoming more and more capable and responsible for taking care of their own needs. Maturation is associated with

Wise Selfishness: a Systems Perspective

March 26, 2023Define self
Me YOU graphic
Can one be selfishly wise? Dr. Kerr has a phrase that is familiar to those in the Bowen community: "How does one be for self without being selfish and be for others without being selfless? " Most of us do not see selfishness as good behaviour. On the

Function UP in 2023

January 14, 2023Define self
Define your self directed goals
Function UP in 2023 It's that time of year when I think about my intentions for functioning up in the coming year. A systems perspective has me thinking about how I'm functioning in my family and workplace systems. The concept of functioning is an im

Defining Self – Always do this

December 16, 2022Define self
stone path in mountain
Defining a self - always do this. Defining one's self is a lot of work and a lifelong process. However, one can improve their functioning at any time. Here are some ideas, from a system's perspective, that can increase one's level of differentiation,

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