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Category: Define self

Emotional Pain and Suffering are Different

November 28, 2025Define self
Emotional Suffering can be reduced
Emotional pain does “hurt”. There is a difference between pain and suffering, and sometimes individuals create more suffering than the initial pain warrants. Emotional pain of rejection can hurt because it uses brain areas that are activated for

What does it take to change a relationship pattern

November 16, 2025Define self
butterfly changes slowly and then flies away
Why does it take time to change relationship patterns? What research says. Changing automatic relationship patterns typically requires months of regular practice. Individual timelines will vary depending on the level of conviction to change, pattern

How to Vent Responsibly

May 18, 2025Define self, emotional contact, fusion
Vent responsiblity with the Differentiation Diamond
Vent Responsibly: Transforming Emotional Venting When someone says "I need to vent," what's actually happening? This common phrase signals something deeper than a simple conversation. Let's explore how one can transform venting into something product

The Maturity Point

April 11, 2025Define self, emotional system
the maturity point involves making a choice
The Maturity Point: That Moment You Choose to Step Up We all hit it—that moment. You’re facing something uncomfortable—maybe it's a task you’ve been putting off, a conversation you’ve been dreading, or the decision to stop scrolling and sta

Making Changes in Relationships

March 16, 2025Define self
Changing relationship patterns can be hard
When is comes to making changes in relationships, why does it take time to make a significant change and what can one do about this? News flash. I'm not perfect. My immaturities and anxiety lead to me being more reactive in relationships than I want.

How Relationships Impact Health

October 27, 2024Anxiety, Define self, health
Stressed Woman

New research shows how our thinking can impact our gut health and trigger an immune system reaction. Chronic anxiety in relationships can activate this pathway. Define self could be more important to overall health that most people realize.

Don’t Fear Forgiveness

June 23, 2024Define self, forgiveness, triangles
Hands in Hands emotional Contact
Why is forgiveness important? Because it's good for us, whether it's forgiving someone else or yourself. But adopting a systems perspective around a wrongdoing is a big shift for anyone. The more intense the situation, the harder it can be. (Before y

Expectations and Emotional Demands

April 16, 2023Define self
I am your dream
Emotional demands and expectations go together For most organisms, including humans, the developmental trajectory involves an individual becoming more and more capable and responsible for taking care of their own needs. Maturation is associated with

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