Thinking Systems Blog

It’s hard to forgive a wrongdoing. But there is a way to approach forgiveness that can be helpful to your well-being.

Research and interventions show the benefits of forgiving for the individual doing the forgiving. This makes sense, since forgiving help to reduce negative emotions. One approach is based on a REACH model that involves completing a workbook over several hours.

Can AI Be a Mental Health Coach? I have been using AI in different ways for three years and have been watching how it has developed. People are already using AI for emotional support. A 2025 survey of American adults with ongoing mental health condit

Is estrangement worth it? There is a belief that cutting off from one's family can be a good thing. There are articles saying that going no contact is healthy, that some families are just too toxic to maintain contact with. But how can one be sure? T

Love and Differentiation of Self: What Your Brain Can't Tell You I've been thinking about what happens when someone falls in love. Not the story we tell about it, but what's actually happening. The preoccupation. The longing. The sense that this pers

Emotional Fusion and Health: The Biological Cost of Family Stress We often speak about relationships as being "draining" or "energizing," treating these terms as metaphors for our emotional state. But research in bioenergetics suggests these aren't m

How do you want to function in 2022 from a systems perspective? How do you want to function in your family, workplace, and planet?

What Draws You to Your Partner? Most people can describe what attracted them to their partner. Maybe it was their sense of humour, or the way they listened. These conscious explanations feel true and personal. But what if unconscious processes shape