Living Systems Counselling offers affordable counselling to individuals, couple and families. People from all walks of life seek assistance with their own personal dilemmas. Anxiety, depression, physical illness, marital discord, behavioral problems, family relationship dilemmas, and workplace difficulties are some of the problems people bring to counselling.
Clients begin to take up the challenge of thinking in new ways about the difficult situations they face and of finding thoughtful ways to direct their own lives. While many people initially prefer weekly appointments, they quickly learn that the real effort lies outside the clinical hour in their important relationships, and they have clinical sessions less frequently.
Anxiety and Depression
A systems approach to dealing with stress, anxiety and/or depression would invite the individual to take a broader view of his/her situation. A systems approach asks the client to understand how he or she functions in their own family and social groups and how things evolved over time. Individuals are encouraged to notice how the situation varies over time and in different settings or circumstances as this can provide clues to allow the client to better direct their lives.
A systems approach to relationship issues would invite individuals to look at things differently. People in relationship respond to each other in very automatic ways – some consciously, some not consciously. Often the issue is in the interaction, in the relationship patterns. These mostly automatic responses (or reactions) to each other can become dysfunctional. The relationship patterns are influenced by outside stressors ( money, work, tiredness, etc ) and other important relationships ( kids, parents, siblings, bosses, friends). Our goal is to help a person think about how they react to various situations and choose healthier ways to respond.
An addiction can be understood as a symptom that reflects the level of difficulty one is having in their important relationships and with other stressors in their life (e.g. health, work, finances). A systems approach would address any physiological dependencies, but also how one functions in their relationship systems, as well as other life stressors to get at the root of the problem(s).
Low self-esteem, assertiveness, anger, communication or career issues.
A systems approach to working on these types of issues would involve understanding how one acts and reacts in “the system”, or in relationship to others, whether it is with family, friends or in the workplace. It is very common for individuals to want to avoid conflict, rejection, not rock the boat or stir things up. As a result, an individual can learn to give in and go along with the group or another person. This process of giving in, going along, or wanting to please can contribute to lower self-esteem, frustration and anger, and communication issues, at home or at work. It is not simply a matter of being more assertive. Our approach would encourage the individual to identify dysfunctional patterns of relating to others and then coach them on responding more effectively so they can better direct their lives.
Evenings and weekend appointments are available depending on the counsellor or intern. Please contact us with any questions or to book an appointment. Interns see clients at the lower sliding fee scale ($15-$50) and currently, we have interns available in the North Vancouver, Vancouver, and New Westminster offices.
- North Vancouver office:
209-1500 Marine Drive, North Vancouver, V7P 1T7, (near Capilano Rd, at Marine and McGowan)
- New Westminster:
401 – 625 Fifth Avenue, New Westminster, V3M 1X4 (5th Avenue and 7th Street)
- East Vancouver:
2703 Commercial Drive, Vancouver, V5N 4C5 (near Broadway)
915 – 1125 Howe Street, Vancouver, V6G 2K8 (Howe & Helmcken)
- West Side:
212 – 1628 W. 1st Avenue, Vancouver, V6J 3Z2 (near Granville Island)