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What kind of help is helpful?

July 17, 2025differentiation
Brother helping Brother with a saw
When is help helpful? We come to helping others naturally. Because of evolution, we are very good at picking up distress in others. For our ancestors, one group member’s distress could affect another, so helping each other increased the group's sur

Gentle Parenting and Bowen Theory

June 7, 2025differentiation
Mother and baby monkey Gentle Parenting
 Gentle Parenting and Bowen Theory: How Differentiation Can Make a Difference What Is Gentle Parenting? Gentle parenting is an approach that emphasizes empathy, respect, emotional attunement, and consistent communication. Rather than punishments o

Pessimism is irresponsible

August 14, 2024differentiation, emotional system
We can do this
Is pessimism irresponsible? Some people think it is, but many do not. To the question "Are we doomed" Anne Applebaum replied, "Pessimism is irresponsible". That's an interesting reply and I think it aligns with a higher level of differentiation. What

Can anxiety be bound

July 15, 2024Anxiety, differentiation
Anxiety builds up

YES. And anxiety binding has positive and negative aspects to it.

Dr. Kerr wrote a lot about anxiety binding behaviour. He is the author of Family Evaluation, one of the original “source materials” on Bowen Family Systems. The system’s idea that a behaviour can bind anxiety is important when trying to improve one’s functioning.