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Give the Gift of Differentiation

December 26, 2024Uncategorized
Differentiation is the game of life

The mall Santa had noticed the child in the line of kids. They were all eager to share what he was supposed to get them for Christmas. This one child looked a bit puzzled, like they were searching for something. Santa wondered what might it be.

How Relationships Impact Health

October 27, 2024Anxiety, Define self, health
Stressed Woman

New research shows how our thinking can impact our gut health and trigger an immune system reaction. Chronic anxiety in relationships can activate this pathway. Define self could be more important to overall health that most people realize.

Radical Acceptance and Bowen Theory

September 13, 2024Anxiety, attachment, cut off

A family system perspective can make all the difference to adopting radical acceptance of a situation. For many people, the shift from an individual model perspective to a family emotional systems perspective is a radical thing to accept. But the core of radical acceptance theory is understanding and acknowledging “what is”. What Dr. Bowen observed, understood and acknowledged was that families operate as an emotional unit.

Pessimism is irresponsible

August 14, 2024differentiation, emotional system
We can do this
Is pessimism irresponsible? Some people think it is, but many do not. To the question "Are we doomed" Anne Applebaum replied, "Pessimism is irresponsible". That's an interesting reply and I think it aligns with a higher level of differentiation. What

Can anxiety be bound

July 15, 2024Anxiety, differentiation
Anxiety builds up

YES. And anxiety binding has positive and negative aspects to it.

Dr. Kerr wrote a lot about anxiety binding behaviour. He is the author of Family Evaluation, one of the original “source materials” on Bowen Family Systems. The system’s idea that a behaviour can bind anxiety is important when trying to improve one’s functioning.

Don’t Fear Forgiveness

June 23, 2024Define self, forgiveness, triangles
Hands in Hands emotional Contact
Why is forgiveness important? Because it's good for us, whether it's forgiving someone else or yourself. But adopting a systems perspective around a wrongdoing is a big shift for anyone. The more intense the situation, the harder it can be. (Before y